Sunday, April 26, 2009

Boardroom Woman and her leadership.



Women started entering organisations 5 decades back and have gradually gone up the corporate ladder / hierarchy. Her sustained presence in the organisation has made her acquire leadership status.Women have been generally employed during consolidation phases and not in growth stages. The trend is fast changing.

Woman and Leadership

Women encounter various issues being in leadership positions.

1)At home generally women are not used to handling power and handling power is a challenge.This also involves the job of delegating jobs to subordinates.

2)Exercising authority is something that women have not done in history. Its completely new to her.The jokes that we read about a woman being supreme at home and her husband being a slave is a good for a laugh but if you just go deep into it its been the men who exercise authority.

3)Women in the past have been meeting no one except her relatives.Meeting customers, suppliers and handling government agencies is a challenge in itself.

4)Women now take part in policy formulation and strategy planning which is considered to be a part of top level management.She has truly risen high.

5)She has got to face lot of opinion differences with superiors , colleagues and subordinates . How she puts forward her point and convinces others is where the skills for leadership arise.

Women generally refuses leadership because of 3 reasons.

a)Blame it on the ethic less business culture prevalent in the society.Women have always been portrayed as ethical and good and may be that's why she refuses to a position where ethics are not prevalent.

b)The main reason is the fear of efficiently managing workplace and familial roles .The balancing act.

c)Also, career paths in organisations are not designed in a way so that women can climb up the ladder.Her aspirations are surrendered the moment she gets going in the organisations. I feel the trend is changing.

Life Space

Life space is the space available for women to be on their own. Generally 80 % of space is for motherhood , 10 % of the space is for the in-laws.5 % of space is for the other related roles and the remaining 5 % of the space is for the role of a wife.The 'self space' of a woman consists of all that is within her-the emotions ,feelings , wishes ,dreams and aspirations.The Identity of a woman is reflected by the multiple roles as they evolve over a period of time,the choices and actions initiated and withheld and the paths chosen consciously or unconsciously.

Although Women are capable , competent and committed , they are grappled with issues of Independence and autonomy.The social coding of being a mother ,daughter,daughter-in-law,wife has in a way made them to surrender their dreams and aspirations to be a good daughter , wives & mothers.

This creates immense stress in the husband-wife relationship.Motherhood creates guilt due to children's expectations of a mother who is always available at home.The in-laws are not generally not supportive but demanding and critical.Moreover,they add to the woman's guilt by criticizing and judging her involvement in work negativity.Other social demands from the woman's own family and the network of social relationships make further demands on her space and time. The more she is engaged in work , the more discontent is voiced by the societal system.


Women with Substance


Women grapple with the feeling whether home and work represent their own space,and whether they have ownership of these spaces.The perception is that home space belongs to the father or husband and the workspace belongs to male colleagues.Women are largely operative in other people's spaces and many have no personal sense of freedom and belonging.

I believe a Woman with Substance is one who is able to balance her space. If she fails
the biggest task would be playing the roles of daughter,daughter-in-law,wife at home and corporate leader at workplace since there is complex interplay of emotions and it becomes very difficult to prioritize.

A Mother is Leader
A woman is a mother also. Child rearing is an art itself.It is not easy , its a challenge.When a woman raises a child , she understands and learns about herself.The commitment to leadership and as a parent she strings to make the world a better place for the young one and this is nothing else but leadership.

Women and men both are leaders , but women have some things that men do not possess.
Lets be fair in our assessment.How significantly this is relevant with leadership I do not know but it is relevant.

a)Empathy:- E.g. A woman understands her child better than a father.

b)Flexible and Negotiable:- E.g.It is common knowledge here that getting a sign on the report card is easier with the mother.

c)They are perceived to have the country club style of leadership

Her Future

For women in the corporate world, the past may contain many memories.Some good,some bad;some creative ,some destructive;some glowing with radiance ,others with hate;some with guilt and shame , others with pride and achievement . These memories have added up to give vast panorama of experiences.

The future beckons.. some words are to be replaced.
Instead of dreams - commitment
Instead of aspirations - choices
Instead of fear - courage

Women have entered organizations in a big way. They have crossed new thresholds and are carving a niche for themselves in various fields and are blazing a new path for the future generations.

The future will perhaps witness leaders who will not be Identified by their gender but by their capability , their vision and their competence.

Monday, April 20, 2009

'Remote' Wars..

The Battles are not Remote ..
The Battle is for the Remote ..

All I ask for is the Indian Premier League..
But My Mom says to study and be in the Elite league..! (she means CA..lol)
She wants to see Kalasam and Kolangal..
When will she understand all these are 'Kevalangal'..?

She Says Devayani and Ramya Krishnan are Cute..
All I can do is to wait for her voice to Mute..
She keeps Sun TV even during Serial Breaks..
She does not understand without watching cricket my head will break..

In the home there is always a Remote Control Battle..
She says if I don't listen to her , I mite end up rearing cattle..!

I am happy that she is not watching arasi..
Coz that is the time she feeds me arisi(Rice)..
If I listen to commentary... Its High Decibel and gory..
IF she listens to 'opari'..its turning point in the story...!

My old Tv BPL ..
Is being deprived to telecast the IPL..
Its Injustice to the core..
Nights without IPL would be intolerable and bore..

One thing is for sure..

When my mom has the Remote control..
My Control of her is very Remote..!!

Friday, April 17, 2009

Make the Most of Now...

A 'lot' of people ( say Mr Matador, Ms Volatility , Mr Super Subbu ) have expressed concern for my depressive state of my mind and Ms Volatility and Mr Super Subbu even offered solutions.

Why am i depressed? Well, one reason is evident from my previous post and others maybe from some of my previous posts... Looking at the bigger picture, I realized the problem with me is that I think too much into the future , do too much of self introspection and when I am not able to obtain any happiness , I get depressed.

This is the right time to understand the phrase 'Carpe Diem'(borrowed from Kd,Similar to Kd) .. A latin phrase meaning 'Snatch the day'..

I think its perfect to catch this video.. (Vodafone AD)



Carpe Diem .. Make the Most of Now.. WOW... Beautiful.

Its wonderful to make the most of now and be happy. We longer living creatures must surely learn the lesson.All sounds great is it not?

Now look at this Video posted below (above ad's spoof...!!)



Oops.. This is my problem ( Pl help )!!!!..

Sunday, April 12, 2009

Terminate to stigmatize..

Do not Brand...
for the soul might crack..

Do not Denounce..
for the soul might burst..

Do not Stamp...
for the soul might crash..

Do not Stain..
for the soul might shatter..

Do not Mark..
for the soul might break..

Do not Reproach..
for the soul might Fracture..

Do not Stigmatize..
For there might be a Debacle..
For there might be a rupture..
For there might be a derailment..
For there might be a malfunction..

Cease to stigmatize..
Its now or never..

for there is Catastrophe already..!!

Thursday, April 09, 2009

Out of My Comfort Zone - By Stephen Rodger Waugh ( the Autobiography).


This has been the book that I wanted to lay hands on for a long long time and finally did so last month. Wow!.. This 'Never Keep Down' book told me so many intricacies about the game itself and gave an insight into the life of cricketers on and off the field.

It is common known knowledge that Steve Waugh was not one of the 'great talents' on the field but known as the one who maximized his minute talent to the fullest. He is not known for his talent but more for his grit and determination. However this man does not agree!!. One line in his book states 'I was the most talented Batsman in New South Wales.' Does that mean he is more talented than Mark Waugh?? I do not think so.
Here I come across his personality as some one who is an extremely confused and agitated from within constantly trying to prove to himself that being a player of limited abilities , he has made it. However to the outside world , he fakes himself to be extremely talented.

The Most irritating thing in the book is the fact that everything that sounds good is the Australian way and everything else is bad.He claims Aussies lost games only because of bad scheduling , flight delays, poor hotels,lack of facilities for pre-match practice,Curators,hotels situated far away from grounds,Bad umpiring,extreme weather conditions etc etc and NOT BECAUSE THEY PLAYED POOR CRICKET!!

May be Steve needs to understand that all teams face such hardships and Aussies were no exception.The acceptance that they lost because they played bad cricket is never reflected anywhere in this 800 page book.!!On the contrary , he claims that every game that Aussies won was because of the fact that they played extremely good cricket and opponents were no match to them.How silly!!

He has not given great credit to too many opposition players.Often praise comes with an unusual dose of slack!(which I think is due to the jealous of not able to possess the talent of that opposition player and sometimes within his team!).

One of the cheap things he has said is with reference to the famous 2001 Kolkatta test."We were undone by bad umpiring. Venkatesh Prasad , the No 11 Batsman was plumb out but not given. Due to this VVS Laxman who was 35 then , scored a Half century and was able to carry on this form when he came back to bat at No 3 and scored 281". He neither accepts the fact that they were unable to get his wicket nor showers great praise on that flawless innings Laxman played.

Believe me , This is the tone that he takes throughout this book and that is truly irritating.

Some things such as the ACB-ACA duel in this book is boring to the core.However , he makes his point very clear that whatever happened , he stood by his players. One of the revelations that he makes is the relationship with his brother which he claims is not too smooth and I am surprised that there are not too many references to his 'Brother Mark'(copyright Vadivelu) in this book.

I was a great fan of Steve Waugh for his ability to bat with the tailenders and get the best out of them. He says ' Even the bowlers have some talent with the bat .The only thing that makes them to be wary is the number they bat.No Bowler wants to get out cheaply. I understood this and I was successful.'Indeed the best way to get them bat is to give them confidence that they can and allow them to play majority of balls of strike bowlers . By not doing so, they are never going to contribute.


It is surprising that all was not well even within this Aussie team as he openly speaks about his tiff with Michael Slater. Slater gets slack from him on one more occasion for his behaviour on the Dravid catch issue with Umpire Venkat (who is also damaged). Ego issues between Australian players come up in a subtle way very nicely which just goes to show that all is not great in the Aussie team as its made out to be. Waugh’s widening differences with the selectors as he approached the twilight of his career is extremely well written as is his reaction to his sacking from the ODI squad in early 2002 as captain and player.I think his best mate was Ian Healy. He recalls how painful it was for him to announce personally as the captain to Ian that he was being dropped from the ODI squad.

His Views on Captaincy is the one thing in this in this book which I subscribe to. He says -- ’’Captaincy is about empowerment,about making players responsible for their actions and ,in turn,accountable.It’s about treating everyone equally but differently by recognising there are varied characters and personalities who need to express their individual flair and instincts inside the ultimate team vision.It’s about setting an example and not expecting anything of your players that you aren’t willing to do yourself.It’s about mentoring and at times protecting individuals,and taking on their problems so that the team will benefit.You must swallow your pride in order to move on.Crucially,it’s about seeing the good in people and focusing on the positives and the things you can control.It’s making sure your time management is spot on and that you continue to earn your place in the side.At times for me it was being an advisor,psychologist,mate,mentor,mediator,selector,mouthpiece and politician.Above all,it was about being me and doing it my way.’’

Other Highlights of this book:-
a) Foreword by Rahul Dravid.
b) The Photographs.( Truly Photographs are great!)
c) His views on Match fixing.
d) His praising of Little known Sameer Dighe ( for his heroics on the last day of 2001 Chennai test)
e) His tips on how to face a ball. His mode of on and off concentration technique with his favorite 'NOW' word.
f) His duels with Curlty Ambrose ,Allan Donald etc etc.
g) The Famous Gibbs Dropcatch. (It is surprising to know that it was actually advised in their team meeting by Shane Warne not to hurry if gibbs takes a catch because he has that 'throwing away' tendency)
h) His 'Udayan' Work.
i) Fielding skills of another little known Roger Harper.
i) The Rapport with his wife - Lynette.(Who has written the last chapter in this book)
j) His on field Sledges (Paarthiv Patel's is the best)
k) Dressing room habits
and many more....

Truly the book is exceptional.However Stephen Rodger Waugh is unfortunately an Aussie & therefore exaggerates way too much( like saying chennai is 50*c) and also is Very arrogant ( says MA Chidambaram Stadium is a poor man's MCG)and Cocky (although he may not accept ).



A must read... A cricket lover's dream book.

Tuesday, April 07, 2009

What if all of us looked alike ??!!

This is something that I have been pondering over years..

While each and every other living being in this world looks alike ( obviously within their own 'clan'), Why is that only in the 'Human Clan' all look different.?

The reason cannot be for 'Recognition' purposes alone because the 'cats' and 'dogs' not only recognize but also communicate with each other with no sense of confusion of who's who.( Truly Amazing!)

The scientific answer to my question is the DNA(Deoxy riboNucleic Acid).
The main function of a DNA in living organisms is to duplicate itself. A sequence of several DNA's form genes which is the main reason for the physical characteristics of a living being. DNA might sometimes undergo sudden changes called mutations. This is the reason for different features. Also, it depends on where the genes are placed on the chromosomes.(bloody hell!!)

Lets forget Science(I forgot long back) for a moment and connect with (much more relevant) Fantasy!

Imagine .. What if all of us looked alike???!!!
Now There arises the choices like whom should all the Humans look alike.?

Lets take 2 choices.

a) Aishwarya Rai.
or
b) Nelson Mandela.

I am sure that you are able to understand I have taken two opposites!

Aishwarya Rai is generally been the adjective to beauty even though many people do not subscribe that she is beautiful now.Nevertheless , she had been my first big crush and hence I believe she is or was beautiful.


Now if everyone looks like ASH.. Imagine..
Every person would look beautiful...

Positives:-
a) No Beauty Contests.. No Miss World , NO Mrs World.etc etc.
b) No selling of Fairness creams..
c) The World looks beautiful.
d) No gory people.. ( Even Beggars would be beautiful)

Negatives:-
a) People would forget ugliness as a factor.
b) Boredome!
c) Confusion of who's who?

Nelson Mandela has been an adjective to the Human Spirit!.He represented the Humans fighting against all odds.However sorry my friends , He looked ugly.

Imagine what if all of us looked like Mandela.

Positives:-
a) Hey!. Mandela would become the adjective of beauty!. No one is Beautiful after all.
b) The concept of Fair skin would become irrelevant.( It was what he fought for)
c) There is no Inferiority/Superiority Complex on Beautiful/ugly issue.

Negatives:-
a) The World becomes a ugly place. People would lose appetite for beauty.
b) Repeation, It is boredome..
c) Same.. Confusion of who's who.?

So, analysing the pros and cons and touch reality , it does feel that being oneself is what most prefer.

Whomsoever the Humans might look like the real beauty lies in the Heart of such a person i.e The Inner Beauty.(Fun apart , the ancillary objective of this blog was send across this message)

I would prefer to be a Mandela rather than ASH. I believe most of you prefer the same.

P.S.
I have not brought in the 'Gender' factor in this blog just to avoid 'complications'.(more so after being in the 'line of fire' on this topic of late ..lol)