Are we forgetting Something ??

How nice it is to a have a glimpse from the other side.The Same event from different angle.By being empathetic,we might as well try to be happy with honesty, integrity, manners, patience, giving, helping, sharing.

Anger is a natural human emotion, which aids the fight or flight mechanism we experience when danger is perceived. The problem is not anger itself; the problem is how we manage our anger. Too often, uncontrolled anger becomes a habit, and our normal way of interacting with those around us.

No amount of excuses can be supportive of bad behaviour ( Surely..I am ashamed of myself). Resentment is a form of anger that does more damage to the holder than the offender.I call it a habit because it is a habitual way of behaving and responding to circumstances of which I disapprove. It is not 'how I am' - it is 'how I react'.You may feel that you are in the RIGHT when you get angry. But the key is this: does it make you HAPPY? Does it contribute towards your happiness and that of the people around you?.NO.

There's also a blow to our peace of mind of endlessly going over events, re-running them and re-feeling the feelings over and over again! And each day watching for all the opportunities to feel annoyed.The worst part of getting angry is repenting about it later. Our self esteem suffers - we afterwards feel bad with ourself because of how we've let ourselves down and lost control.

We feel bad about how others view you. Our family,friends tend to treat us with caution, because they cannot relax in our company but have to remain on guard, waiting for the next explosion. Then there's all the apologising and making up - 'I'm sorry. I'll never do or say that again, I promise!' And no one believes you.Pathetic.

An angry man is again angry with himself, when he returns to reason.After an angry exchange you can be affected for hours or even days as you endlessly go over the event in your mind, churning up the anger feelings and adding to them. And during this period your mood is being ruled by the memory of the person with whom you are angry. You are not in charge. You are a victim of the event.

Anger consumes huge amounts of mental and physical energy, takes from our enjoyment of life, interferes with constructive and useful thinking, threatens our relationships, undermines our self esteem and, in extremes, can obsesses us that it crowds most other thoughts from our minds.

In my case ,The first reaction I always give is an over-reaction. The belief that once I get my way on this matter, I'll be happy is an illusion. The need to control is wide spread in the life of an angry person. It never is in just one area or with one person. This means an angry person is living his life like an active volcano, erupting all over the people they care about most...

I am an uncontrollable person when I am 'angry'.. I am a person who bangs his head sometimes with palm..mostly on a wooden door...I Punch the wall with my fists.. Throw tantrums.. Rip papers..Throw things around.. Lol.. Funnier things have happened...

So what is the Cure..? Mediation , yoga... Art of living.. etc...etc.. NO... All Bullshit according to me...It only adds to further Anger...The real solution is very simple and available with all of us but we use it very rarely because we often forget it..

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Hey... We(I) often forget to LAUGH !